How to find love and make a relationship work

Relationships is a topic that has stood the test of time. How do I know he is the one?,  Is this relationship working? In this article, we break down some of these related questions.

The topic of true love has been debated for centuries with cynics on one hand swearing it doesn’t exist and hopeless romantics on the other hand who think everyone should set out to find their soulmates.

However, science now shows that indeed true love is not only possible but can last a lifetime. Which leads us to this topic How to find true love and know they are the one?

Think about it for a moment, in your life You probably have received relationship advice from so many different people friends and family. Even those ”cheesy” Tv programs that you hate to admit you watch faithfully have given you a certain perspective on what love is. But how do we separate fact from Fiction?

Love is beautiful

Love is no fairytale so looking for a perfect 10 who checks all boxes on your wish list is just not logical. It is possible however to find someone to stand by your side through thick and thin, brave the messiness of this world, and help you experience life to its fullest potential.

 How can you find true love?

When you meet someone, don’t hurry things.

Allow the relationship to unfold naturally for the connection to develop. If you’re both paying genuine attention to each other then something great will be achieved.

Stop Basing Your Standards On Movies Or Novels.

Sorry to burst your bubble. True love in real life isn’t as simple as what is portrayed in these films. You need to stop setting standards that are too good to be true.

Seeking Financial independence is key in finding true love.

Why you may ask, this way you’re going into a relationship for the right reasons, and whether or not your partner can provide for you financially doesn’t affect your genuine connection. Go start a business


Yes, I know this has been said many times but you indeed have to be able to love and appreciate yourself first. Fall in love with your strengths and weaknesses. An amazing relationship comes about when we own and appreciate who we are and completely accept the other person for who they are.

To love someone, you must have self-love

Look for someone whose priorities match yours other than personality. Priorities can affect a relationship if you do not share the same perceptions about certain things, it could create problems. Case in point, your significant other may put family as a priority while you may not feel the same way. With different priorities you will have difficulty understanding each other.

Now that we have established a few ways to find true love, how can we make a relationship work? Relationships aren’t easy. I for one know that. Far too many couples throw in the towel on their relationships prematurely.

They then repeat the same dysfunctional patterns in their next relationships. The truth though is if they sat down and were both committed to working it out then they are capable of having long-lasting relationships.

So how can you make your relationship work?

Accept conflict as normal.

All couples fight. Disagreements are unavoidable. However, don’t throw all that away because you’ve hit a rough patch. Both commitment and trust deepen once you deal with these patches together. Give each other space. A healthy couple can spend time away from one another. Spend time with their friends and work on their own goals.

Seek the wisdom of your internal voice when your relationship is in a slump.

It’s easy to go to friends for advice but sometimes the only voice that matters is yours. You know your truth and what feels right.

Seek professional help when trust is broken.

Broken trust can take a toll on everyone in the relationship. Working together with a therapist who specializes in relationships can provide guidance for healing.

Communicate your boundaries.

Many relationships die from silence than violence. Speak up and express your needs, create a truly open channel of communication.

Fights do happen in a relationship and its okay

Rebuild trust.

The fundamental glue that holds any relationship together is trust. However, this trust can, unfortunately, be broken sometimes times as a result of one partner betraying the other. However, the hope is not lost. You can rebuild trust in a relationship that requires work from both parties involved.

Break the pattern when rebuilding trust.

Approach it like building a new relationship. Go out on dates and understand your partner afresh. Seeing it this way creates an opportunity for defining rules and boundaries from the beginning. This means striving to understand and work through underlying issues as well as letting go of past resentments.

Have a willingness to work on the relationship.

You can’t rebuild trust by yourself. The person who violated the trust has to be willing to demonstrate how they will repair the damage done. The person whose trust was violated should allow themselves to forgive and be vulnerable for a renewed connection. Create new memories and remember that people can be re-trusted to focus on the future.

Practice radical transparency instead of bottling up feelings.

You need to be transparent with your partner about what hurt you. This involves putting it all out there no matter how painful it can be. If you are the one that broke the trust you need to be transparent with yourself about what motivated you to do so. Was it a lapse of judgment or was this an attempt at self-sabotage?

Finally, a good relationship is about give and take. Never let it be one-sided we all know that relationships are about giving and making compromises.,

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